Love Games

Many of us see love as a game – where one wins, which is competitive and where the rules have been set and learned from our observations of love games around us.

For most of us, love is a game of win/lose so that manipulation becomes the key tool. It’s about “I am not calling him unless he calls me”. It’s about withholding affection until we get something that we want from the other person. It’s about trying to control another person, and make them behave in a certain way.

Whenever I am find myself holding back on doing something in my love relationship, I know that I am into the manipulative game mode. I simply ask myself “Is this how I would want the person to behave towards me?” If the answer is no, then I know that I need to switch. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is the most powerful guide to relationships. For if we treat all others as we want to be treated, then we can only come from and be love.

Here’s the surprise – love is a game, but the game of love is one where we play together rather than against each other. It’s one where the team wins. It’s a team sport. If one loses, the team loses. Both have to win for the team to win.

Now, my love game is one of win/win. I give love as I want to receive love.